So why do we do what we do...

I am going to preface this post with some background information about me: I share this background with everyone so you as the reader can humanize the author of this blog.  I am a 26 year woman dealing with these issues on a day to day basis like everyone else.  I use sarcasm and humor to deal with almost every situation in my life. So through these posts I hope everyone remembers my number one defense mechanism is SARCASM.  Yes I said defense mechanism... when you are sarcastic on a regular basis no one can tell when you are being serious...ergo no one can get that close unless they break past that "tough" outer shell.  So lets recap: 26 years old, lack of father growing up, uses sarcasm to adhere people from getting close... ya that sums it up. So the main point NO FATHER GROWING UP.  My family was and still is beyond supportive.  My mother did everything she could to ensure I didn't need that father figure that was lacking in my life.  And for the most part she succeeded.  However; with all the work she did I still couldn't escape those "daddy issues".  Now there are a lot of details of my childhood I will spare to save the feelings of some reading this... but I will just say dysfunction has a way of latching onto even those who try hard to fight against it.  So there was the lack of biological father, insert a step father who I wish took tips from actual father and skipped out early on... however he was around for a couple years.  You know, just long enough to further those trust issues I already had.  Thanks for that.  So yada yada yada... now we can skip to my adult life.  I am now 26 and I had my first boyfriend at 15... so that is a solid 11 years of hilarious, romantic ridiculousness to keep you fine people entertained with.  And on this final bit of my background I will leave a prime example what those "daddy issues" do to a young girl... As I said my first boyfriend was at 15...not abnormal... however my first boyfriend was 22. Yes a 15 year old dating a 22 year old... could you get anymore textbook daddy issues... Alright enough about my background. 
So why do we do what we do...
Many studies, psychologists, scientists etc.. say with the lack of that father figure in a female's life the females can develop a certain need for that male attention.  They look to older men to give them that attention that their father didn't.  And in many cases not even older men, just men in general.  (Side bar: I only know the point of view of not having a father in my life, many females had their fathers in their life the whole time however their father was cold or distant and can result in the same kind of issues).  So did I mention I dated a 22 year old when I was 15... ya.. case in point.  I am a pretty smart girl, I look at things from a mature view for the most part... however I thought at 15 dating someone 7 years older was a stand up idea.  Many young girls who "crave" that male attention do things like this without realizing why they are doing it.  (Side bar: I kept this from my mother for those who are wondering how a mother of a 15 year old could let her date a 22 year old...simple... she didn't know).  So that is what started my dating life.  Great huh... Hey dads before you skip out on your daughter just picture that little girl being 15 and dating a 22 year old... because I'll bet money it will happen.  Fingers crossed it doesn't result in a pregnancy (side bar: mine DID NOT). Now this blog wouldn't be very interesting if I divulged all my relationships all at once...so don't worry the rest will come later.  Now back to this "daddy issue"... we crave attention from guys who are A)not deserving B)not interested and make us work for their affections or C)drunk and standing relatively close to us in a bar. (Side bar: stereotype for girls with "daddy issues" is sleeping around).  So you see when our dads skip out it then makes us girls crave that male attention... it happens without us realizing.  I had NO NEED for a dad growing up and there I was, fifteen and craving this attention from this older man.  So this is why we do what we do.  Now here is the silver lining ladies: the older I got the less I "craved" that attention from men.  In fact... unfortunately I went the other direction and had no need for men in my life at all.  Yes I had boyfriends but they were merely lawn furniture in my life... I had no real need for them, sure its convenient to...um sit on them... sounds bad... but I had no real need for them either way.  I did grow out of that stage as well... there are a lot of stages.  So this hopefully is a little more insight into why I think we do what we do...